Sunday, March 4, 2012

How do I convince a friend of mine who has MS that there is a lot to live for?

He has MS and always refers back to that day last year when he was diagnosed to it as the day his life ended. He doesn't really think there is much to live for and thinks a lot of scary stuff. One of my friends is really freaked out by some of the things he says so he keeps trying to get me to talk to him since he already tried and failed. What do I do?How do I convince a friend of mine who has MS that there is a lot to live for?
I think your friend could benefit from talking to a MS counselor or join a MS group. It also sounds as if he suffers from depression, so it would be good if you could get him to see a doctor about this. This is not at all uncommon for people recently diagnosed with MS.

My advice would be to stop pitying him and not to treat him as if he's made of bone china. It will only feed his negative thinking. Instead focus on the things he can do and not on the MS and what he cannot do. Thousands of people live near normal lives with MS, other thousands of people live right and fulfilling lives, despite their MS related disabilities. His life is far from over.How do I convince a friend of mine who has MS that there is a lot to live for?
take him out and do some fun adventurous things. make him smile. take him ice skating or an amusement park somewhere that will make him brek a huge smile.

explain to him live life.

what would life be like if everybody just gave up.

just because you have MS doesnt mean your already dead. make the best of what you have now. tell him that his friends love him and that the way hes is acting is hurting and worrying you guys.How do I convince a friend of mine who has MS that there is a lot to live for?
This is a very hard one. I wish I could help but MS is truly a devastating disease. What stage is he in, can he still talk, walk, or do normal activities? I would google some MS websites and see what resources are out there. Also, I don't want to overstep any boundaries but I'm a Christian and if you are or he is, maybe you can talk about life in a way that lets him know that God will always be there (even though it may not seem like it in this situation) and heaven will never go away...
He's still grieving. Really normal, so is talking out of the side of his neck because he's scared to death of the pain, the burden to friends, family and society that he will become, he is sad that all of his dreams and fantasies whether achievable or not have all been crushed, and more. Before you talk to him try and understand where he is coming from, also find out the steps in morning, believe there are five all together, ask a counselor they will know. And then give him the comfort that most people are looking for, it is okay to be sad, it is okay to be scared, and it is okay to keep living. If all else fails ask him what he knows about his illness, educate him and yourself, and other friend, and then bombard him daily with questions about what he is going to do about it, work with it, and work around it. When he has to come up with answers this will show himself how smart and resourceful he is and will re-boost his confidence. GL!!!

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